Sadness - an emotional pain associated with, or characterized by, feelings of disadvantage, loss, despair, grief, helplessness, disappointment and sorrow.
I find that there is no emotion more fascinating than sadness.
It's true that sadness is a feeling of negativity. I bet that if any of us had the option, we would choose to forgo experiencing it. Sadness can be challenging, it can be painful, it can be tough. At times, sadness can be destructive and it can even - in the moment - make one feel that there is nothing ahead but despair.
However, there is another side to this emotion and that's what I find so interesting about it.
It seems that the older I get, the more I am drawn to things that express sadness. I can't get enough of sad songs and my favorite scenes in films are the ones that evoke a feeling of sadness. Is it strange that I get more out of Finding Nemo during the scene in which Marlin is left alone to care for his son after his wife dies than the scene in which Nemo is reunited with his father? Am I weird because I would much rather watch films like Annie Hall and (500) Days of Summer where the relationship between the main characters doesn't work out in the end rather than a film a where a perfect relationship is formed just before the credits roll?
Don't get me wrong. Sadness is not something that one should dwell on for long periods of time. That doesn't do any good. But I do believe that sadness is necessary. After all, it strengthens another emotion.
Think about your victories, your joys, and the moments of pure happiness that have been given to you. Would they be so wonderful if it had not been for hard times, struggles, or failures? Is it possible for someone to feel an immense joy without knowing what it's like to feel an immense sadness?
I don't think so.
This is exactly why I enjoy those films mentioned previously. The reunion between Nemo and his father, Marlin, would not be so joyful if it weren't for the sad scene at the beginning of the film. (500) Days of Summer would not feel so hopeful if the main characters' relationship had worked out perfectly in the end.
I've felt my share of sadness over the course of my life. There's been loss, despair, grief, and disappointment. I'm sure you have experienced those things as well. We all have. I would never describe it as being fun. However, when I do look back on those moments, I am thankful for them. I guess you could say that I am happy to have felt so sad.
I can't speak for anyone other than myself, but in the times when I experience sadness, two things always remain true:
I've always learned something and it has always had a purpose.